Sick of the friends you have? Wish you had friends to be sick of? lol Well I have a few simple tips to help you get back on the road to friendship bracelets and BFF's.... ok maybe not quite like that but you get the picture.
1- Get a hobby
I hear a lot of people complaining about being bored with their lives and sometimes even going as far as to say they are bored with their friends! The best part about getting a new hobby and sharing it is that you already know that you have something in common with these people and you both enjoy it.
2- Talk to everyone you come into contact with
I dont know why people are so afraid of each other but for some reason they seem afraid to connect with each other unless the other person gets brave and initiates everything. Be the brave one, start conversatiosn with as many people as you can.
3- Be the one to start talking first
Its good to initiate the conversation and even better if you know how to carry it when things get quiet but also remember to stop talking and listen! Usually in the begining you can use small talk and casual conversation to learn things about that person's interests. Once you get them talking about something they love they will usually open up to you and you can keep the conversation going with a few questions. If you are an enthusiastic listener they will feel closer to you. People wont remember what you said to them but they will remember how you made them feel.
4- Offer to help someone
If you hear that a co-worker is moving offer to help. You may not talk to them on a regular basis but people appreciate your offer to make things easier for them. Even if they decline the offer they will be more aware of you and they will think of you as a nice person. You can also help people by carrying their groceries at the store, opening doors for them, etc. The nicer you are to people the easier it is to approach them.
5- Dont be afraid to make the first move
Most of the time other people are just as afraid of looking dumb as you are. They are scared that you will think they are creepy or that you will reject them so instead of saying hi like they want to they keep to themselves. Opening up the lines of communication between yourself and others around you will help win you lots of new friends in no time. In group settings dont be afraid to start the conversation. Use topics that are interesting that everyone can participate in. Generally if you are all in one place together then you all have at least one thing in common (besides the fact that your all in the same room you jokesters). Maybe you all work together, your all mothers, all of your kids are in the same class, all of your boyfriends golf and your all bored while you wait for them..... whatever it is it gives you an easy conversation starter.
Use these tips and you'll start to see results immediately. The more you do it the better you'll get and the more friends you'll make. Now go young grasshoppers and use your new found knowledge 
First I nearly jumped out of my skin since I didnt know he was standing there, then I started blushing furiously. Of course, I do something dumb and there is a cute guy standing right there. He helped me get my hand out and was really nice about it but he did crack quite a few jokes about me being a redbox destroyer in the process. We kept talking while he was renting his videos and I noticed he picked school of rock and step brothers. I like both of those so he scored some points there. He was really easy to talk to surprisingly. Normally I would go for a quick exit but everything just kind of flowed naturally and I ended up staying to talk instead. When he got his movies I made a comment about liking them and he said I could go watch them with him. I would have liked to but I had that other date so I had to go. 
I know, I know, stop picking on the poor boy right? Well he shouldnt order for me. His face went pretty red and he was avoiding eye contact with the other ladies. As soon as the waitress left I ended up laughing and apologizing. I told him to feel free to get me back. He was nice enough to forgive me and seemed to relax a little more after that. The rest of dinner was just your average first date dinner. Nothing exciting. We stayed until the place closed and then he asked if I wanted to go back to his house and watch a movie or something. My thoughts: "meh not particularly". 
Just a side note he also screams like a total girl. He is not a calm crasher at all. It was a small ditch but still, it sucked. We had to get the car out in the cold and snow. Thankfully some people pulled over and helped us. 
I reached for my door handle but in my hurry to get out forgot I still had the seatbelt on so I only got one leg out the door. DOH!!!! lol He put his hand on my arm to stop me so maybe (crossing my fingers here) he didnt notice the whole seatbelt thing. He was like "can I kiss you?" Ugh that is the worst. Then if you say yes you overthink it and it feels so staged and weird but if you say no you feel a little bad. I always say no though, always. I'm all for the gentleman thing with doors and stuff but not with kissing. Dating me is not for the feint of heart and if your going to be with me you have to know what you want and go for it. If I was feelin him more and could tell he was just too shy to kiss me that would have been about the time I just grabbed him by the shirt and kissed him 
but I didnt like that guy like that. I just said, um...not now. Then I gave him the hug of his lifetime (I'm exaggerating that part quite a bit) and got out of the car. He's a nice guy and I know a very cute friend of mine that would be perfect for him but he's forever stuck in the friend zone with me. Hope I didnt scar him for life 
Earlier tonight they reminded me of my childhood friend Sam. He was this blonde haired, blue eyed, bare foot boy from down the street. I remember I loved going to his house because he had bunnies and his mom was from England and I loved her accent. He was my first innocent little kid kiss. We were friends for quite a while but then when we got a little older he started hanging out with the boy who lived next door to me (I didnt like him because he pulled the legs of of grasshoppers) and decided I had cooties. 
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