November 2, 2008

  • So you want to accomplish the impossible...

     People seem to think that to accomplish their goals they need to contact some celebrity to make it happen for them. Dont get me wrong asking for help is a good way to get things done, but you have to be talking to the right people. Accomplishing things will be so much more fulfilling if you do them yourself. Now you may be wondering if you cant get people to do it for you where do you start? Well here are some ways to help get you from start to finish on the road to accomplishing your goal.

    1- Know what you want. Think about what you want to do and why you want to do it. If you say "I want to sky dive" because thats what everyone says and you dont know what else to say, then you most likely wont get it done. It has no purpose to you. You would be doing it just to do it with no meaning behind it. Now if you did that same thing to overcome your fear of heights thats different. It matters to you. You have a reason now. Also make sure your doing things for you. If you say "I want to lose 20 lbs." because you think your boyfriend will like you better but in all reality you feel fine with your weight, then you wont do it. Starting to see a pattern here? Know what you want and do things for you.

    2- Once you know what you want you need to take that first step to get the ball rolling. So many people have great plans that fail because they never set them in motion. Looking at the whole picture the project may seem daunting and impossible but if you break it down it becomes much easier. Think of the easiest thing you can do to accomplish this goal, even if it is just telling someone about it. Do it quickly while you are still excited about it. If you keep putting it off you'll end up never doing it. Write out your plan step by step to determine how you will reach your goal. Sometimes you'll have multiple game plans and ideas. Thats not a bad thing. Dont be afraid to write down ideas that seem outrageous either. When trying to get things done you cant block out options. Think of your favorite person or character that always gets things done and never lets anything stand in their way. When writing your plans ask yourself what would that person do? How would they make this happen?

    3- After you have got your plan think about who can help you. Who is involved with, in charge of, or educated about, that thing you seek. Become educated about what you are trying to do by using the internet, books, and shadowing people that do it. You cant be afraid to talk to people. Let them know what your trying to do and why. Usually they will help you.

    4- Dont let rejection and set backs stop you. People will tell you no, they will put you down, they will make things harder, things will go wrong, and occasionally you will fail....for the moment. Dont let that stop you. If you accomplished everything without adversity or conflict life would be boring. These set backs will only make the victory that much sweeter when you finally beat all the odds and say "I did it!"

    5- Ask yourself what you have to offer. In general people dont have time, they dont care about things that dont effect them, and they dont like to be used. Think of what you have to offer in trade for their help. 9 times out of 10 it is not a monetary item. They want your time, your help, you opinion, your advice, etc. We all have the ability to listen to someone else and to help out in our own way. If you keep your eye out you'll be able to see how you can make their life easier and in turn that usually makes them more likely to help you.

    Well thats a general group of tips right there. There are so many more little details but it would take me forever to write them all and some things just need to be taught in person. I hope this helps you to get started though. I'm a planner and list maker by nature so if anyone would like help with one of their plans let me know and I would love to help.